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Joanne wrote a post about being a woman who also enjoys dressing like a man. This brought some things to mind that I would like to share, as if you all didn't already think I was quite odd enough!
Although I am a straight woman in that I am attracted to men, I've always thought of myself as a "fabulous gay man trapped in the body of a frumpy straight woman." I feel like I really get gay men. Not all gay men engage in drag, of course, but I love drag queens. In this sense I've always felt that I was a little bit "queer" in spite of being straight. It isn't a sexual turn-on for me, it's just that I don't "think" like a woman except with the belief that being a mother is the most important thing in my life.
Notice that I said in MY life. I do not believe that a woman is only a "real woman" if she's a mother. Far from it. I think it's sad if someone feels forced into becoming a parent by their family and by society. Not everyone wants kids.
I don't mind being female, but I've been called a dyke more than once because I am not a "girly girl." I don't like going shopping for the latest fashions, I want something comfortable. I don't want to be a man in the sense that I want a gender change. I'm actually fine with being a gay man in a straight woman's body! I know that most people won't get that, but I think you do. I also love that you were so honest about who you are. Cheers!
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I've a rather androgynous face so I've passed as a boy once or twice when I was a teenager.
But that was nothing compared to a kid I knew during 7th grade. For nearly 8 months I was convinced it was a boy until I saw her arrive to the school dance wearing a skirt.
Strangely enough, if I were a man, I would love to do drag. But as a woman, I don't like to wear makeup except on rare occasions, probably because it's a societal expectation that I should. If I'm working during the day I do tend to wear foundation because my skin is somewhat sallow and not entirely even-toned, but as far as showy makeup, I am not prone to using it. Since I work nights, I rarely wear makeup at all.
I don't think it's at all uncommon to want to be a boy when one is young. They're more free, and in literature, they often have cooler adventures. I always wanted to be tall, dark, and slender, like Sam in THE TRUMPET OF THE SWAN.
I grew up short, fair, and plump, but feel that I've integrated that tomboy strength into my femininity. I do wear men's clothes--especially shirts and jackets. They're sometimes more comfortable or fit better, and sometimes they make me feel more powerful. I also feel most at home in casual clothes that are not made for men but are not particularly feminine. But despite the curious vibe I sometimes get from lesbians, I don't feel this is gender or orientation bending, just part of the no-nonsense woman I am.
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I by far prefer men's t-shirts to the girly, "feminine" ones. I have a boxy body and I don't like the sleeves on my t-shirts to be too short because I have beefy arms. I like my t-shirts to hang loose. I also like flannel or denim shirts over a t-shirt in the winter. I agree that this isn't gender-bending attire. I've always preferred sensible attire. I don't like wearing high heels because I have foot problems, but if I were a drag queen, I'd do it anyway!
Thing is, I never wanted to be a "guys guy." I wanted to be a more effeminate guy. Like you, I liked the idea of being tall and slender. I'm somewhat tall for a woman (almost 5'7") but I'm quite stocky. As would befit someone who has a blog called Fatty Fatty Two By Four--ha!
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