My brother called my mother last night and told her that he's been sleeping at the fire station (where he's captain) for the last week because his wife told him that he doesn't "excite" her any more. This is fucked up on multiple levels. He works his ass off, so maybe she could cite workaholism. But...
She has rheumatoid arthritis. He takes her EVERYWHERE for her appointments whenever he's home. He does the majority of the housework. He takes care of the 7 dogs--all strays brought in by her. He does everything he asks.
Second, our dad died just 2 1/2 months ago now. So, excuuuuuuse the fuck out of my brother if he's not Mr. Jolly Times, maybe?
So it was a real cunt move on her part.
Granted, it was never a real passionate marriage. My father actually told my brother that he shouldn't marry my soon to be ex sister in law if he didn't feel passion for her. My brother's reply was "but she's a good person."
Yeah...that's the same mistake I made. Marrying for logic instead of love. Now, it isn't that you need to feel drooling lust constantly for your partner, in fact sometimes that can be a really bad thing to base a relationship on. But there has to be some sort of spark. Otherwise, that person should never be more than a friend.
I feel really awful for my brother. He put a lot into this marriage. She's going to see how much she's fucked herself over once he's not there to do everything she needs any more. But he should never, ever go back. Once someone stabs you in the heart that way, they'll do it again. She's unstable. But it cannot be his problem any more.
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That's tough. I agree, he should turn around and take only care for his own from that point onwards.
Logic can work but both have to be into it. This is imperative.
Sadly she doesn't seem to have any. But she'll figure it out soon.
He put a lot into this marriage.
Unfortunately that can keep a person going back. The more time and effort invested the more compelled one feels to continue.
This is so sad.
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