I didn't write the words below but I easily could have. They were written by a fellow who had a possibly well-meaning (but possibly not) friend who drove him away from his support groups by telling him to "tough up." Obviously he took things out of proportion but sometimes people who are fragile will do that.
I always end up making mistakes that end up making it so I can no longer comment on people's blogs because I have made an ass of myself by being too sensitive. Even friends I have had for a long time, and those are very few.
I think it is not helping to have my extended family here. It has really triggered something destructive.
Here are the words of the wounded:
So.. I keep getting told by a female friend of mine that I need to grow up and not tell all my problems to strangers and that im pathetic for doing so.. I.. Feel like a piece of shit, what was I thinking in the first place.. I do enjoy getting things off my chest, but, now I feel I'm a burden. I just want to say thanks for all the help this group has offered me, and this is going to kill me for a long time for doing so you've helped me so much.. but, I'm the type of person who will dwell on being a burden every I type now.. because what a friend said.. I need to leave all my support group.. it's time for me to do it alone.. Goodbye everyone and I wish you all the best.. I'll never forget what you all did for me XXOO ♥ and *hugs* JOE
I wish that people would think more about their words. This "friend" did not do this fellow any good at all.
2 comments:
Words are amazingly powerful - the words others use, and the words we use about ourselves.
I think I mentioned to you on my blog that one of our national sporting heroes - John Kirwan - put out a book called "All Blacks Don't Cry". Really powerful stuff - coming from an icon of "toughness" and now deriding those who say to toughen up.
Yes - we can choose to be happy. But making that choice is a hell of a lot harder for some than it is for others.
Coping with mental illness is a permanent battle. It is so important to always be vigilant. To be aware of the signs of a down-turn.
John also talks about the incredible importance of realising the things that do make you feel good, and actively include those in each day.
Again, easier said than done, but the man has a lot of wisdom.
Hugs.
Thank you. This is a difficult time and I appreciate your words of encouragement.
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