I had a wishful thinking dream that the friend who dumped me back in October left me a comment saying he was sorry for his treatment of me and inviting me to come see the new videos he'd made and posted on his blog. I forgave him for his behavior and we started commenting and being supportive of each other again, like nothing had happened, and I felt really happy.
I don't expect that this will ever happen. This person felt very self-righteous about what he did. He was, at least on the surface, angry about the amount of posts appearing from another Facebook friend regarding a game she was playing. So the angry friend, let's call him Gary, posted a message in his status asking if anyone knew how to get rid of the "weirdos" on his friends list.
It was actually the person that Gary was angry with who responded. She told him how you unfriend someone. She also jokingly wrote that she hoped it wasn't her whom he was referring to because no-one is weirder than she.
Two minutes later, Gary had unfriended her. He left the scathing message that she wasn't weird, she was just emotionally immature, taking up everyone's wall with her crap.
She wasn't aware that she was doing so. As well, there are ways to block posts from certain applications or to "hide" certain friends that you'd rather just check in on occasionally. There's no need to be nasty. As well he could have politely told her that he was unfriending her because of her game posts.
I called Gary out on his behavior, telling him that this wasn't cool. I told him that I knew he'd been under stress lately and if there was anything he needed I was there for him, but this wasn't cool.
Gary responded in a nasty fashion, saying he didn't care, he just needed to be sarcastic to someone because the reception to the videos he'd created had been very sarcastic.
I responded that I cared about him and maybe he needed to disable comments for his videos because some people are just assholes and he didn't need that negative energy in his life.
He unfriended me and never responded to any following emails.
Because we had been friends for five years, this really hurt. I thought that Gary accepted me as I was and this caused me to trust him.
There was a book that I was planning on compiling of posts created over the last 5 years by Gary, myself, and another friend about a mutually shared character. All of the proceeds would have gone to a local animal shelter where I got 2 of my cats. The book will never be now because I will never be able to get permission from Gary to use his work.
I would forgive Gary if by some miracle he asked for forgiveness. But I think he feels very self-righteous and justified in his behavior, which was, frankly, awful, and more emotionally immature than anything the person he attacked did.
I hate wishful thinking dreams. One wakes from them thinking something wonderful has happened, only to discover that not only has it not happened, it cannot and will not happen.
