Yes, and Stupid Too

Someone on Facebook posted the question "Is Sex Overrated?"

Ask a silly question...

Yes. And it's stupid too.

Have you ever really observed how people look when they're having sex? No, I've never stood there watching people have sex in front of me--that would embarrass me far more than it would arouse me. But I have seen porn.

 People look stupid when they're having sex. The only reason it might seem arousing at the time is because one has the desire but no-one to fulfill it with. However, try to watch porn when you're not horny and it becomes about as arousing as watching someone fix the plumbing. It's completely ridiculous.

I do think that sex is overrated. So many movies/television programs and advertisements revolve around sex. If you can't tell a story without sex being the central focus, it's not a very good story. It might be decent erotica, but it isn't a good stand-alone story. And if you can't sell a product without resorting to sexual imagery, it likely isn't a very good product.

For me, romantic relationships are right out. They make me suicidal. Literally. And casual sex does not make me feel aroused, it makes me feel sick and dirty.

I don't go around telling other people not to have sex, and I take umbrage that there are people out there who have had the audacity to tell me that there is something "wrong" with me because I don't want sex.

So, my real opinion at this point in my life is that sex is stupid. And I'm happy enough never to waste time on it again.

No Relationships

I'm just like Lady Gaga, except not sexy or talented!

At 46 years of age and living with rapid cycling bipolar type II, borderline personality disorder, and OCD, I decided a long time ago. against attempting any type of romantic relationship again. I tend to attract predators, and I tend to become too emotionally attached.

 I'm not suggesting that everyone take the route I did if they are mentally ill. I'm just saying that some of us may be more damaged than others, and it took me a long time to realize that I'm not somehow a "bad person" for not wanting to be in a relationship and also not having any interest at all in casual sex encounters. I'm a lot less defensive about my choice. 

When people get bent out of shape that I have chosen to be celibate, I realize now that it must be their problem and none of mine. How can my choice regarding sex and relationships reflect on them at all?

I actually understand what Lady Gaga means when she says that she chose to be celibate because when she's involved with someone it's like they are "stealing my creativity through my vagina." When I become involved with someone on that level it is all consuming. They are all I can think about and the rest of my life suffers. I become paranoid and jealous. And if they dump me (which is inevitable because I tend to attract douchebags) I become suicidal. It is not, not, not healthy. Plus, on the off chance that I actually managed to attract a non-douchebag, I would not want to saddle anyone with my metric ton of baggage.

So I am going to roll like Lady Gaga. But I promise you, I will not sing or dress in revealing costumes!