This quote puts my thoughts into words better than I have ever been able to myself.
‘There are a lot of people who want to become “spiritual”, which I have a little bit of – but I hate new-agey stuff. They want everything to be beautiful. Well, I’m sorry, life feeds on life and there’s a horror involved in that, and to not pay attention to that is just to be naive.’
--Leslie KentonRead more: http://www.dailymail.co.uk/home/you/article-1246717/Leslie-Kenton-reveals-incestuous-relationship-father.html#ixzz19DMxbzwl
Leslie is the daughter of the great big band leader, Stan Kenton. He was always one of my favorites. Unfortunately, he seems to have been a very sick man who did some terrible things. Leslie describes him as having been a childlike person. He had severe substance abuse issues.
Sometimes people fitting this description become friends with their child, treating them as a buddy or a brother or sister rather than having a parent-child relationship with them. Sometimes people form what I call emotional marriages with persons with whom they have an otherwise platonic relationship, such as a friend, sibling, or child. This relationship takes the place of the marriage partnership, although it is not incestuous and there is no desire for sexuality on the part of the parent when such a relationship forms. It may be dysfunctional at the core and may reveal the parent to be emotionally immature. But it is not destructive, like the relationship between Leslie and her father was.
First John Phillips, now Stan Kenton. I hope no other of my musical heroes turn out to be twisted in this way!
